Domestic Violence & Other Victimization
Intimate partner violence is a serious problem that affects millions of Americans. It is one of the most underreported crimes. While people have many important reasons for not telling anyone about the abuse, many victims do not speak about the abuse because of fear or shame.
Anyone of any race, ethnicity, age, religion, gender identity or expression, or sexual orientation can become a victim of intimate partner violence. It affects people of all income and education levels, and can happen to people who are dating, married, or living together.
Fortunately, there are many human services and legal resources that can help victims of intimate partner violence throughout New York State.
What is Intimate Partner Violence?
Intimate partner violence refers to abusive, controlling, threatening, or violent behavior by a current or former partner against the other partner. Intimate partner violence can also be called “domestic abuse”, “domestic violence” or “dating violence.”
The abuse can take many forms, such as physical, emotional, sexual, economic, or mental abuse. Abusive partners sometimes use technology to abuse, or keep track of current or former partners. A person who abuses their partner is trying to get and keep power and control in the relationship.
It’s not always easy to tell if your partner is abusive, especially at the start of a new relationship. Please look at these Warning Signs if you think your partner might be abusive.
What help is available for victims of Intimate Partner Violence?
If you need immediate help, please call the 911.
There are also hotlines where you can speak to trained counselors:
- New York State Domestic & Sexual Violence Hotline: 1-800-942-6906 (English, Spanish, multi-language hotline)
- Relay service for Deaf or hard of hearing: 711
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
- National Deaf Hotline Videophone (9am-5pm M-F): 1-855-812-1001 or firstname.lastname@example.org
Hotline staff can help you with:
- Crisis Counseling
- Safety Planning
- Assistance finding shelters
- Learning more about your legal rights and options
For more help with your safety and legal options, please talk to an advocate at a domestic violence program near you.
For more information about intimate partner violence, please go to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence website.
Technology and the internet can be used by offenders to embarrass, humiliate, and harm victims. Revenge Porn, which is more appropriately known as sexual image exploitation, is when intimate sexual images are shared without the victim’s permission.
Sexual image exploitation can have a devastating impact on a victim’s emotional and mental health.
What is Sexual Image Exploitation?
Sexual image exploitation refers to the distribution of sexually graphic images of individuals without their consent. In other words, it is when someone posts online private, nude, or sexual pictures or recordings of you without your permission.
Often, the person who shares the images is an ex-partner, but the offender can also be a stranger who hacked your phone, laptop, or cloud storage account.
This crime is also known as nonconsensual sharing of sexual images.
- Images that were taken without your knowledge or permission, for example, images taken through hidden cameras.
- Images taken with your permission as part of an intimate relationship that were meant to stay private.
- Images where a picture of your head is placed onto another person’s body to create a pornographic or embarrassing image.
Offenders often post these images on social media platforms to embarrass and hurt the victim, or to damage their reputation. Offenders may also use the images as a way to blackmail victims into continuing the relationship.
What can I do?
Victims of this crime experience a great deal of trauma. More than anything else, they want the images to be taken down immediately.
If you find out that your images have been shared without your permission, immediately tighten your privacy and security settings on your social media accounts. For example, increase your privacy on Facebook and make your passwords secure.
On the Cyber Rights Initiative website, you can find a detailed Online Removal Guide to remove images on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Reddit, Tumblr, Yahoo, Google, and Microsoft.
You can find links to low cost or pro bono (free volunteer) Attorneys on the Cyber Rights Initiative website.
If you are a victim of sexual image exploitation, please call the Cyber Civil Rights Initiative Crisis Helpline at 844-878-2274 for support and advice.
Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual act where threats, force or violence was used by the offender. Sexual assault also includes sexual activity when the victim cannot give consent, for example, when the victim is underage, drunk, or under the influence of drugs.
Sexual assault is a term that describes many different kinds of unwanted behaviors. This can include rape, attempted rape, fondling or touching your body without your permission, and sexual harassment or making sexual comments that make the victim feel uncomfortable.
When a person is being sexually assaulted by someone they know and trust, this is sexual abuse.
Sexual assault and sexual abuse are crimes, even if you are married to the abuser.
What can I do if I have been sexually assaulted?
Sexual assault can be very distressing and traumatic. But please know that what happened to you is not your fault. You are not alone, and there are people who can help you take the first steps toward healing.
- If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.
- Contact the New York State Hotline for Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence at 1-800-942-6906. They can help you decide what you can do, and where to go to get help.
- Contact your local rape crisis program. Advocates there can help you with crisis intervention support, and medical attention.
- Get immediate medical attention from your doctor or a hospital near you. You may have unseen injuries, and need testing for possible pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. You can bring someone you trust with you for support.
For more information about sexual assault and what you can do, please visit the Office for Victims of Crime Help Series sexual violence brochure.
Stalking is a serious crime. Some stalkers can get more dangerous over time and may turn violent. While a stalker can be anyone, it is usually someone that you have dated, worked with, or had some form of relationship with. If you are being stalked, it is common to feel afraid, unsafe, anxious, stressed, or angry. Please know that help is available.
What is Stalking?
Stalking is when one person repeatedly follows, harasses, or behaves in a way that would make a reasonable person afraid. You don’t have to be physically injured or hurt to be a victim of stalking.
Some examples of stalking behavior include:
- Following you, driving by or hanging out at your home, school, or work.
- Sending unwanted gifts, letters, or cards.
- Repeated calls, including hang-ups.
- Repeated threatening communications, especially after being told to stop.
- Damaging your home, car, or other property.
- Monitoring your phone calls or computer use.
- Using global positioning systems (GPS) or other technology to track where you go.
- Threatening to hurt you, your family, your friends, or pets.
- Contacting your friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers as a way to track or frighten you.
- Posting information or spreading rumors about you on the internet or in public places.
What can I do if I am being stalked?
Stalking is a crime and can be dangerous. If you think you are unsafe, take the threats seriously.
- If you are in immediate danger, please call 911.
- Contact a Helpline, a victim services agency, a domestic violence program, or a rape crisis program. They can help with a plan for your safety, and refer you to the services you need.
- Tell your close friends, family and coworkers to get their help.
- Keep a record. Write down every time the stalker follows or contacts you (the time, date, and place). Keep emails, notes, texts or phone messages.
- Contact the police and report the crime.
- Get a criminal court order of protection or a family court order of protection which is a court order telling the stalker to stay away from you.
Please visit the Stalking Resource Center for more information and resources.
Older adults tend to be more vulnerable to crime than other age groups. Because they are generally more trusting, less likely to fight back, and may have memory or physical impairments, they are often the targets of crimes like robbery, burglary, financial abuse, neglect, and fraud. Unfortunately, many older adults are abused where they live.
When the victim knows the offender (the person harming them) – such as a caregiver, family member, intimate partner, friend, or neighbor – it can be difficult to see that behavior as abusive, and even harder to identify the behavior as a crime.
Some older adults don’t report the abuse to anyone because they don’t want the person they know to get in trouble. Others do not report the abuse because they are afraid they may lose their independence, or don’t know what will happen if they report the crime.
But it is important to understand that elder abuse is a crime, and help is available. If you or someone you know is a victim of elder abuse, you can call the police or Adult Protective Services at 1-844-697-3505.
What is Elder Abuse?
Elder abuse is the mistreatment of an adult who is 60 years or older. It can take many forms:
- Physical abuse
- Sexual abuse or abusive sexual contact
- Emotional abuse
- Financial exploitation
What are some of the signs of Elder Abuse?
Here are some of the signs that you or someone you know may be a victim of elder abuse:
- Bruises, welts, fractures, broken bones, rope burns, or signs of hair pulling.
- Weight loss or dry skin, poor color, sunken eyes/cheeks, which may be signs that you don’t have enough of the right foods to eat, or enough to drink.
- Wearing dirty or unclean clothing and bedding.
- Health problems that cannot be explained.
- Excessive fear.
- Problems with sleep. This can include not being allowed to sleep, or sleeping too much.
- Signs that medication isn’t being given correctly. Some signs include drowsiness, not being alert or aware of their surroundings, and confusion.
- Anxiety or hesitation to talk openly.
- Home is disorderly, fridge is empty.
- Unpaid bills, disconnected utilities.
- Stops taking part in things they used to enjoy.
- Sudden change to power of attorney or other legal documents.
For more information on the risk factors and indicators of Elder Abuse, please visit the New York Office of Children and Family Services website.
Where can I find help?
If you or someone you know is being harmed, you can contact New York State Adult Protective Services at 1-844-697-3505. They can help investigate the case and offer services to protect the adult from harm.
The services they may offer include:
- Counseling for you and your family
- Arranging your medical and mental health assessments
- Applying for public benefits
- Helping you with law enforcement and other agencies
- Finding living arrangements
- Managing your finances
- Limited housekeeping services
- Crisis interventions, such as orders of protection
- Long-term legal help, such as guardianship (being legally responsible for the care of the elder adult).
If you suspect that you or a loved one may be a victim of elder abuse, please visit the National Center On Elder Abuse for more information and resources.
For immediate help and to report a crime, call 911.
Visit the NYS Social Programs website for help with housing, food, unemployment assistance, and other services.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - confidential support for people in distress: 1-800-273-8255.
Adult Protective Services: 1-844-697-3505.
Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence Hotline: 1-800-942-6906.